Your heart is precious. Not everyone qualifies
For most of my life, I believed love meant giving.
Giving more. Helping more. Showing up more. Putting myself last.
I wore it like a badge of honour. I was the strong one. The dependable one. The one who would drop everything to help someone else. Friends. Partners. Colleagues. Clients. Even strangers. If someone needed me, I was there.
Because I value kindness.
Because I care deeply.
Because I genuinely want to make the world better.
But here’s what no one tells you about being “the giver”… If you’re not careful, you slowly disappear.
You start pouring from an empty cup.
You say ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’.
You overextend.
You feel drained.
Unappreciated.
Taken for granted.
And then you wonder why you’re exhausted. Not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too.
For a long time, I thought setting boundaries was selfish. Unkind. Harsh. I thought being a good person meant always being available.
But I had to learn the hard way that boundaries aren’t unkind.
They’re self-respect.
They’re protection.
They’re love… directed inward.
Because here’s the truth: You cannot keep giving your heart to everyone. Not everyone values it. Not everyone protects it. And not everyone qualifies for that level of access to you.
Your heart is precious.
It deserves to be held carefully.
Even by you….Especially by you.
So this Valentine’s Day, instead of only looking outward… Look inward.
Do you love yourself the way you love everyone else?
Are you kind to yourself?
Do you speak gently to yourself?
Do you prioritise your own needs… or only everyone else’s?
Because the greatest love of all isn’t found in someone else. It starts with you.
With how you treat yourself. How you protect your energy. How you honour your worth.
So maybe this year… Buy yourself the flowers. Treat yourself to the overpriced chocolates. Go for the walk. Book the massage. Rest. Say ‘no’.
Choose you.
Love wisely…..Your heart is precious.
Not everyone qualifies. 🤍